Bullet Points from
my book: Unconventional Yogini in a Conventional World. The chapter
is called~Lovers love love.
They are
not directly related to love relationships of the man and woman kind
but of the human kind and un-kind. Here are a few things I
have learned and find to be true.........and a few things I have
learned and want to be true........
~It is OK to love
even when you are not loved back
~
Staying open in love during times of pain is only painful if you do
not stay open
~ Even exchange of energy
is balance but balance is not always evenly
exchanged
~ Friends are more important
than money but not all friends understand this
concept
~ To attract polarity in
relationship you must actually permeate the
opposite
~ I heard an "expert" say that
happiness was a learned behaviour but I know that it is my true
nature
~To stay juicy in your life you
must be juicy in your body
~ To search
for fulfillment is selfish, to remain open and a clear channel for
others is boundless love
~ When I am not
true to myself, it actually hurts those I love more than
me
~ To be lonely is a victim, to be
longing is a lover
~ All beings in my
life are the mirror to my neurosis
~
Manipulation drives in the fast lane and exits at the opposite of
what I desire and deserve
~ Just because
it hurt then, doesn't mean it has to hurt now
~ Expectations are predetermined
resentments
~ Patience is not a virtue,
it is a necessity~divine timing
~ Love is
not something you do, it is something you are
~ The true meaning of love is to be in love with all things
at all times
I offer up to you, in this moment, some words that have come from my own personal practice and from the gift of sharing with you, dedicated practioners. This concept is from a portion of my book in progress, An Unconventional Yogini in a Conventional World.
From the Root to the Fruit
An article on foundation
by Jolie Cash
Spring Equinox~The light and the dark are in perfect balance this day. The light showing his fire and the dark showing her inward groundedness from which to grow. It is amazing how nature can show us our own innate balance with such wonder.
In the concepts that I have learned in yoga about balance, I have most always heard that one must draw up on mula Bhanda (the root lock). I find this most disturbing in my body. Not only does it go against everything I have learned and experienced about being in the flow, but it seems tight. In my experience when one tightens their buttocks or more specifically their root, everything gets tight. You become tight in life, tight in your thoughts, tight with money, you basically become a tight ass! Have you ever seen the guy who dances as if his feet are in cement? Most likely he has a tight root. Then there is the guy that everybody is looking at, pointing the finger and laughing at because he is really moving and into it. He may not look so "cool" but he is into it and he doesn’t care? That is the guy with the open root. He really doesn’t care what he looks like, he is open and having fun! Now this idea comes from sober dancers of course, because those with a little liquid courage usually don’t care what they look like anyway.
Roots
In order to set a foundation one must ground down. We hear in the yoga/energy world all the time, "plant your roots" this is great! It may be a little bit of a cliché' term used now, but there is really meaning behind that if you think of a tree, our teacher from nature of opposite and equal energy~balance. The tree moves its roots down in search of nourishment (water) and it only grows up when that nourishment is reached. In our asana, in order to lengthen up we must ground down. If we are pulling our root up, what would happen to our tree, it would fall over, unless it was held up by a pole. We do not have the luxury of poles in yoga (yet anyway, although there is a pole dance workout that is very popular and definitely opening for the root!) Once we find our foundation by rooting (or expanding) down, not up, we can allow the expansion to take over. This expansion can be explained as space. By finding that solid foundation, it allows you the space to open up like a flower or like the leaves of the tree growing toward the heavens. So we look at the roots, the heaviness of the body, the physical body, (anna maya kosha). Then we look at the expansion up, the lightness, the breath that expands, the energy body (prana maya kosha). Then there is that space in between, the space between the breaths (kevala kumbaka) the space where nothing exists and bliss resides. Physically, there is the space between the root and the fruit, our center. Our “center", also a very over used term these days, but it actually does exist on the physical plane as well as the energetic plane. If you look at the art piece by Da Vinci, you will see that he discovered the center of a human being at the middle. If you open to this place, it is where we move from in our daily life. On the energetic plane this “center” is the 3rd chakra, manipura (bright jewel) the place where we shine, our personal power and the center of our being, our seed!
Guru Prem Singh Khalsa, direct disciple of Yogi Bhajan says “You do not have to immediately master the complete geometry of a posture. The important part is to root yourself correctly.”
In every posture there is a part of the body touching the floor. This grounding down is the "foundation" of the posture. Plant your roots with intention for foundation in all you do in your postures and your life.
Expansion
This rooting of yourself correctly allows you to then expand. From the foundation, comes upward motion of energy (udan pran). From this upward motion, your posture will be the seed from which you will begin to flower.
Guru Prem Singh Khalsa also says, "The flower exist in the bud. It is not yet fully grown, but it has the essence of the flower. Establish the inner essence and you will grow into the correct shape."
The expansion of a seed is not a comfortable process. The amount of gases that it takes to burst open a seed is a tremendous amount of surging energy that may be translated to pain. (I can relate this to birthing but that is another article that I will share later) It is not to say that expanding must be painful, but it takes energy. Once the roots are solid and the energy is moving down (apan pran) the opposite and equal energy will take over. As a seed expands, the shell burst open and the sprout appears. It is from that place that the water and the light will feed its growth. In our practice it is the lightness of the inhale that will allow the expansion of udan pran (upward flow of energy), the energy of the prana in the breath becomes the water, the ojas, and the juice for life in the pose.
We can relate this theory to our life in the way in which we go about simple (or not so simple) tasks of our daily life. When we move into the tightness we begin to pull up, we lose our roots to mother earth and our foundation in what we are trying to accomplish. Tightness comes from fear. Once the fear is present then there is no boundlessness, no expansion, only tightness. One cannot expand into grace or integrity if not relaxed and bound by a box.
“You must savor the fragrance of a posture. Until you are relaxed, you cannot savor the fragrance”. B.K.S. Iyengar
Lines of Energy
It is moving from the root that allows our most basic primal instincts to activate. The very first part of life begins as a wiggle at the base of our spine, the tailbone, the physical manifestation of our root energy. It is that wiggle that offers life in the womb of the mother and from that our most basic primal instincts expand. If this basic instinct is drawn up and tightened, then how will the energy move? If we want to expand we must allow the energy to have a foundation from which to move from. It is proven by science and especially yoga that there is always an opposite to any action. If in every posture there is a part of the body touching the floor, than this grounding down is the "foundation" of the posture. It is from that foundation that you expand in all directions, not just up.
At the center of your being lies the intelligence of balance within your body and your life. Grow from center, open at the center chakra and from this place you will be guided to direct the lines of energy in your body. From this guidance, you will begin to move the energy in all ways throughout your body. Allow this practice to take over your life. Be in the flow of energy in your body. Allow it to demonstrate how to live your life. Find your foundation from your root, even if only in the moment, especially in ONLY the moment and then let go, relax, expand and let the root explore deep into the foundation of mother earth and the seed expand open, showing the sprout of your beautiful blossom that will continue to grow into a flower to produce the fruits of your practice, this funny thing we call life! And remember to stop in the little moments of time to savor the fragrance.
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Opposite & Equal Action
by Jolie Cash
8/8/08
Life has been both full and lazy all at the same time.
I took quite a bit of time to be responsibly irresponsible this summer. I have had more time on my hands than I ever
have and felt as if I could only get less done each day.
I spent the entire summer (so far) just lazy and empty but
full beyond what I usually think my capacity is. Thank goodness
for my practices that keep me empty.
My spiritual path has gone in some wild directions showing
me both chaos and balance at the same time. This is no surprise
to me as I have spent my life rubbing the carbon together to
see the shimmer of the diamond appear only when the sweat and
tears have diminished. I have barely endured these tumultuous
times and at the same time can only say that I have had nothing
but excitement, joy and fun. How is it that one can feel on top
of the world one moment and the next feel like mother earth sat
on her. I suppose the easy answer would be a chemical imbalance,
HAH! heard that one before. Thank goodness I do yoga or ya never
know what your gonna get!
How is it that one knows what to share if one never experiences
it? I'll tell you, one doesnt! One must feel it, live it and taste
it before one can even begin to play with the fire of change.
This is why I sell my teacher training as "LIFE CHANGING". Anyone
can go anywhere and pay someone who has more experience than them
to learn a few postures an get a few techniques to teach a good
yoga class, but that will soon end and the path will fall short
of going over a cliff. When one enters my training I tell them
that this is about opening up your heart and the skeletons in
your closet at the same time and facing them. This is where the
juice for them as a teacher lies. Who really gives a rats rear
what postures we do, we have been doing them for 6,000 years.
Don't get me wrong, the postures work! That is the canvas for
the opening into the juice of what I am talking about, but it
is the experience that comes from the postures that allows the
teacher to share on a deeper level. A local studio owner, friend
and associate of mine, Janice Gates (author of book: YOGINI) put
it perfectly in our conversation today. She said "what people want
is an experience. Anyone can offer great techniques, but we are all
here for an experience." What I have been meditating on today is
that she didn't say they all want a GOOD experience, she said they
all want AN experience. It reminded me of my story and how intense
it was as I was going through it and how no one in their right mind
would EVER jump up, raise their hand and say "OH! pick me, I want
to have a nervous breakdown!" Instead, one wants to heal. I could
go into the whole "healing thing" but instead I will take you back
to where I was going when I started in the first place, my
responsible irresponsibility of summer 2008........
I have so many students and friends that are always
questioning my theory of suffering. Perhaps they question
it because they are trying to live in the fuzy feel good
fairy world, or perhaps they just haven't hit the
place of suffering that I have known to understand, it doesn't
really matter. What matters is that we are all suffering and
we don't have to, we have practices for that. But one doesn't
always make a change when life is cozy. One only considers making
a change when discomfort arises. It is in that discomfort that we
choose to make a difference in our lives. Take the world for example.
I know this is a bit bigger than the big picture, but think about
it. Did we unplug the microwaves and stop using styrofoam in the
70's because it was convenient. NO! we continued to pollute our
world and bodies because it was easy. When it was easy, we just
kept keepin on. It wasn't until our bodies as a society started
manifesting cancer and our planet suffered (which really translates
to us suffering because mother earth would swallow us in 50 years
flat if we stopped stopping her) that we decided to change our ways.
So I allowed myself to be irresponsible in my days of lazy
introspection. Really looking at my world I have created for myself,
not always comfortable with it. Wondering why I have chosen the
hardest path most times. Why didn't I just do what my mother
begged me to do, get a job with benefits, start my 401K, blah,
blah, blah. Not that it is all blah, just for me it was a path
of ignorance compared to what I was shown of my potential. I was
broken down by my own ignorance and shown that life was about
growth and change. It was about using the suffering to become a
better person and more importantly to use my own experiences of
suffering to help others understand what it is to become empty
which translates to being vulnerable. I love the term vulnerable
because it gets so many peoples panties in a ruffle. We think of
it as weak when it is an amazing state of openness to change and
loving ourselves and others in PURE form.
In order to know balance, one must fall. To feel the cool light
of the moon, one must sweat from the heat of the sun. To know
responsible, one must experience being irresponsible.This is
opposite and equal action. To root down, one must lift up. So
allow yourself to sink deep into the state you are in and find
that opposite. Try it for size and see how it fits. Feel opposite
and equal action in all that you do. It is from this place that
you will make a change. If it is not where you want to be then move!
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Union as Empowerment
Shiva & Shakti in our bodies
by Jolie Cash
The beginning of my path to yoga began from a state
other than physical. You see I had lost my mind and
was in search of finding it again. During a very hard
time in my life I experienced what the allopathic
practioners would call a nervous breakdown. I was
unable to stand by myself, my mother had to feed and
bathe me like a child and sleep was interrupted by
anxiety attacks that sent me beyond deep depression.
My mother finally decided to commit me to the hospital.
As I stood in the center of the warehouse of my failing
business, I waited for them to arrive in the white van
with the straight jacket and sedate me. I phoned the woman
from whom I had bought my business, she later became my
friend, mentor and teacher, and asked her to help run my
business while I went away. She encouraged my mom to give
us 3 hours at which time I would return and go to the
hospital if it was still necessary. She took me to the
beach where I stood 6 months earlier to take vows of
marriage, which was now also failing along with my 3
businesses, and taught me to put my feet on the ground.
In this "session" I experienced the returning of half my
being. I had been functioning with only half the energies
that a balanced being uses. I had left England to return
home from my husband and in the process, left my masculine
power behind. This may sound very woo-woo, but the session
included a process of returning my energies to self, at
which point I began to feel my body come together as if I
was being fully dressed in a cloak of power. I was able to
stand and walk away from that day in total being and never
to see the white jacket or mind altering drugs!
Through the last 11 years, with the help of my mentor and my
asana practice, I have worked with these energies to find a
balance in my body beyond any that I could have imagined.
Through my asana practice, I have found the two energies
shiva and shakti, that are in fact alive and flow through
the channels that are awakened through the opening of the
body in asana.
It is getting well known in the "energy world" that the
left side of the body is feminine and the right side is
the masculine. We can go further and connect them to the
brain but for now we will stay with energy. If you do not
connect with energy, then allow your mind to wrap around the
"freeway" of the breath and where it flows in your body keeping
the possibility of energy open since science has proven we are
made up of electrical currents.
Ha-tha Yoga means Ha (Sun) Tha (Moon) Yoga (from the word yoke
meaning Union) The word alone IS balance. The sun rises and the
day is balanced by the setting of the moon. So is our practice.
In this celebration of Ha-Tha, we begin our practice as our day
begins, shining and expanding, heating~tapas, the friction of
purification and end our practice with the moving inward cooling
energy of the moon. Drawing from the energies of both to create
union of power that resides deep within the memory of every cell
in our body.
Further than just the left and right, we move our attention to
the front and back of the body. The back side of the body is
the feminine, and the front side is the masculine. The female
has the intuition, the knowing of what needs to happen, that
is why we are the mothers. The male is the action, the ability
to make things happen, that is why they have the muscles.
This is not to say that the masculine has no intuition and
that the feminine is helpless, but for the sake of union,
these are the roles that these energies play to come together
in power. My mentor used to tell me while we were working on
the union within of the two energies, that "if we (women)
didn't tell the men to build us a toilet, we would still be
using the bushes". We had the knowing and the male took action.
This is also not to say that you can go home and push your men
around ladies! This is to be used for empowerment remember.
Although this concept can be used in relationship, we will
visit that at another time and remain with the energies of
balance in our bodies.
Experience this in your body: Come into the standing pose
Virabadrasana 2 (warrior 2). Feel your backside of the body
ground down. Notice the energy move down from the root. (the
tailbone for a physical reference). Allow the body to relax,
there is nowhere to go right now. As you allow the body to
relax, feel your buttocks let go and soften into the pose.
LOSE your posture for a moment, let gravity take over so you
can really feel relaxed and grounded. Let the energy move down
the backside and follow through the pelvic floor rounding
through the perineum and up to the pelvic bone. From the
pelvic bone, while staying relaxed, feel the front side of
the body lift. This is not a muscling up, this is a LIGHTENING
up, as though it were strictly the breath or prana lifting you.
Like a mist hovering in a valley moving up the side of the
mountain, expanding in the front side of the body! The back
side of the body knows what to do, allow it to do it. Rooting
down into the earth, solid and connected, the way a mother is
to the womb. The front side of the body has the action, a
lifting up like the glistening dew on the tree that experienced
a fresh rain. Continue this flow of energy circling the body
down the back through the root and up the front side. Notice
the expansion naturally happening out each limb of your
physical body. Allow it to come from your center at the belly
and expand outward (vayana vayu) to your whole being.
Repeat on the other side in a relaxed manner. Remember to
allow the root to soften and the buttocks to follow the
example as you practice this flow of continued energy down
the back and up the front of the body
Using this concept in all areas of your life and your body.
Take those moments between tasks to check in with what really
"feels" right and move from that place of knowing and allow
the action to follow. The expansion comes from intuition,
it is the action taken without the knowing that results in
disempowerment and the end result, suffering. Allow the shakti,
the feminine energy to be present guiding you in all that you
know as you unite the shiva, the masculine, to carry out the
vision of union resulting in a place of empowerment from within
your whole body and life.
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Poems
November 16th, 2003
(one year exactly after the passing of my mother)
A love song to my masculine
Why in the darkness?
I search for you
my desire grows beyond belief
I finally find you
my desire turns to relief
Why in the darkness?
I can't bear to see you curled like a child
You desire to be with me
I feel your energy wild!
Come to me from the darkness
do as you desire
We will live a life of unimaginable fire!
Come to me form the darkness
our lives will unite
Out of the darkness
we no longer live a fight
Come to the light of our life together
we will churn in synchronicity
You no longer live below
where you deserve this pity
Show your grand essence to me and I will open for us to unite
For together my Love, we belong in the light!
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March 6th, 2009
A love song to my feminine
I found you so beautiful and alive
Flowing in the grace of my physical body
On the surface and deep within
You show me my balance in divine timing
Sharing your rhythms one at a time
And allowing my tears to cleanse the pain
With no judgment of how or when it appears
It showers me with beauty and allows my power
My truest self and the sisterhood that proceeds me
The wisdom of my mothers as my text of the moon
My intuition stimulated by the presence of your medicine
The ancient tinctures fill my soul
The embodiment of grandmother I cherish
The mistakes of the maiden as she enters her next phase
The scarlet letter no longer exist
From feminine scholar divine sensuality emerges
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